Daddy/little girl play. Yes, I am one of those women who likes to call a guy "Daddy." We're not just talking biological, adopted or step-parents here. I'm talking a guy who has absolutely no familial ties to me in any way. I've recently begun participating in #DaddySunday that @TheSinDoll started on Twitter and it's given me the time to flesh out a bit more why I am really into this kink that certainly isn't for everyone.
First off, I'm just going to lay it out there. I am absolutely not attracted to my biological father in any way. Not even a little bit. I don't have any "Daddy issues" that many attribute to wanting to participate in this kink. My father and I have a great relationship. In a lot of ways, he's my best friend I know I can always turn to when I need advice or need holding. He'll tell me exactly what needs to be said, whether I may want to hear it or not. I'm not trying to replace him by finding Daddy/girl play interesting, but I am trying to find that same feeling I feel with him.
What's the feeling I'm looking for? It's a feeling of being protected, being loved unconditionally, and being cared for. It's about wanting to please someone and make them happy. It's about fulfilling their every wish, but at the same time looking out for myself too. "Daddy" is a person who will always support me, even if they don't like what I've done or said. It's about always having that support when I need it. It's about someone wanting to help me grow and expand my boundaries, especially if that means pushing them. At the same time though, it's about setting rules and if need be, punishing me for breaking those rules.
There is no single person in the world who does for me what a Daddy can do. At the same time though, I find that with each person I encounter who wants to be my "Daddy," each brings something different to the table. For me, this means that one person may not be my only Daddy. It's a hard thing for some people to accept, especially dominant males who typically fulfill the role of "Daddy." Like stubborn little boys, they are often not very good at sharing. Finding a Daddy who understands that I need and want to get my Daddy fix in multiple places is extremely difficult, if not impossible.
Daddy is someone who I can crawl to if I'm crying and need to be held. He is someone who celebrates when I do well and punishes when I disobey or act out. He provides structure where my frenetic brain may not always make it. He is someone who knows what I'm okay with, what I'm comfortable with, what I'm on the fence about, what I'd rather not do and what I absolutely will not do. More importantly, he understands the differences among all those things. Things that are hard limits can be softened with time and Daddy's love and attention though. Often times if it's something Daddy professes to like, I may find it growing on me as time progresses.
You'll notice that I'm using the pronoun "he" a lot when I'm talking about Daddy. While I'm perfectly okay with the gender-neutral idea of pansexuality, Daddies typically are male-oriented figures for me. Thanks to societal archetypes and my own rather structured upbringing in a male & female parent household, I've yet to get into the Mommy/little girl play. That's not to say I don't see myself at some point liking it, but for me, this kind of play is more limited to having a father figure than a mother figure. My relationship with my mother fluctuates from day to day and definitely influences my interest in Daddy play more than Mommy play. I think it would just take the right person to bring out those interested feelings in me.
Have I found "Daddy" yet? Yes and no. There are transitory Daddies for me. Some drift in and out of my life like an autumn leaf caught in the breeze. Some remain more active and some fade away rather quickly. It all depends on if they spark that interest deep down in my little girl center.
Because that's what I am at my heart - a little girl just looking for someone to love them. Daddy just seems to know how to do that very well.
